Navigating High Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting
In this episode of It’s All Your Fault, hosts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy answer listener questions to provide guidance on high conflict divorce and co-parenting dilemmas.
Ending a Divorce Dispute with a Self-Unaware Ex
The first response is to a listener asking how to finalize a divorce when a spouse lacks self-awareness. Bill explains not to expect insight from highly manipulative people. He advises weighing options and setting limits versus seeking concessions.
Making Mediation Work with a High-Conflict Ex
Next, they tackle a question about mediating with an inflexible ex-spouse. Bill recommends one or two sessions maximum before assessing if it’s futile. Megan underscores making self-directed choices to end unproductive mediation.
Coping with Extreme Parental Alienation
Finally, they discuss dealing with an ex-spouse severely alienating children after divorce. Bill outlines common alienating behaviors and options like counseling or temporary custody change. Megan emphasizes understanding personalities aids strategic response.
- Don’t expect self-awareness from high-conflict people
- Choose your battles wisely when negotiating with exes
- Set firm limits on fruitless mediation efforts
- Recognize and address alienating behaviors proactively
- Personality insights assist responding strategically
Bill and Megan share hard-won experience navigating the rollercoaster of high-conflict divorce and co-parenting.
Links & Other Notes
- Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.