Category Archives: target of blame

  Why Is Being A Target of Blame of a High Conflict Personality So Stressful? Guest Blog by Megan Hunter Whether you’re in a dispute with your brother, classmate, work colleague, spouse or even someone you don’t know, conflict is … Continue reading

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The CARS Method for Resolving High-Conflict Situations © 2015 by Bill Eddy and L. Georgi DiStefano The CARS Method was developed specifically to address four big areas of difficulty in high-conflict situations, which often involve one or more people with … Continue reading

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Negative Advocates for Trump © 2016 By Bill Eddy One of the most interesting dynamics of high-conflict legal and workplace disputes is the unique role of “negative advocates.” High-conflict people (HCPs) are always recruiting negative advocates who will completely agree … Continue reading

Posted in *High Conflict Politics, *High Conflict Relationships, *Managing High Conflict People, behavior patterns, family court, family law, HCP, HCPs, high conflict behavior, high conflict person, high conflict personalities, high conflict personality, high-confict people, high-conflict divorce, Negative Advocates, political rhetoric, politicians, target of blame | Leave a comment

Bullies At Work By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. ©  2008 High Conflict Institute Workplace bullying is a growing international problem. It is more than a one-time incident. It is a pattern of behavior between a bully and another worker which … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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Right now I’m on vacation in France before I speak in Vienna in July. Perhaps because of the distance, I’ve been thinking about America’s race problem (after the shooting deaths of nine African-Americans in Charleston, North Carolina) in terms of … Continue reading

Posted in *Parental Alienation, *Parenting and Divorce, alienated, alienated child, alienated parent, alienation, blame, child alienation, divorce, HCP, HCPs, high conflict parents, high conflict person, high conflict personalities, high conflict personality, high-confict people, high-conflict divorce, high-conflict parent, target of blame | Tagged | Leave a comment

Do you have a surge protector for your computer? I’ll bet you do! Otherwise, you could burn out your computer during a power surge from a storm, after a power outage or other cause. But do you have a surge … Continue reading

Posted in *Civility, *High Conflict Relationships, *Managing High Conflict People, *New Ways for Families, *Workplace Issues, B.I.F.F. Responses, blame, bullying, conflict resolution, HCI, HCP, high conflict behavior, high conflict clients, high conflict institute, high conflict parents, high conflict personalities, high conflict personality, high conflict professionals, it's all your fault, mediators, mental heath professionals, personal attacks, target of blame | Leave a comment

Are high-conflict people increasing in your workplace? They can be customers who yell at employees and store owners. Employees who intentionally undercut their colleagues. Supervisors who are so disdainful that employees become depressed, physically sick or quit. They cost businesses … Continue reading

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Times have changed. Incivility is growing in the workplace, as well as in most areas of our society. How big of a problem is this? Why is this happening? And what can be done about it – as individuals and … Continue reading

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In case you missed this month’s HCI Newsletter: Why Healing is Hard for High-Conflict People “Just get over it,” I remember the judge saying in court to a divorced man and woman, who had returned to court for the umpteenth … Continue reading

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