Category Archives: *Parenting and Divorce

True or False? If You’re Not Willing To Adapt Your Strategy With High Conflict People, You Should Get Out Now © 2016 MEGAN HUNTER, MBA High-conflict cases in the courts and high-conflict personalities (HCPs) in the workplace get a lot … Continue reading

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  Why Is Being A Target of Blame of a High Conflict Personality So Stressful? Guest Blog by Megan Hunter Whether you’re in a dispute with your brother, classmate, work colleague, spouse or even someone you don’t know, conflict is … Continue reading

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Numbers vs Feelings: Different Perspectives in Divorce Mediation ©2016 By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. (This week’s blog is written by our guest Shawn Skillin, HCI Speaker & New Ways for Families Trainer) In divorce mediation, there is almost always a … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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Last month, Bill Eddy wrote a letter with recommendations for the Commission on the Future of California’s Court System. Here is what he wrote: Dear Futures Commission: I have been a family lawyer for 23 years in California (a Certified … Continue reading

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Happy New Year from High Conflict Institute and Unhooked Books! We have a lot to be grateful for in looking back over the past year. But a lot more work to do in our efforts to explain high-conflict behavior and … Continue reading

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Guest blog by Ellice Halpern, J.D., a Virginia Supreme Court certified general and family mediator. Last week, I participated in the annual four day Academy of Professional Mediators Conference in Reston, Virginia and learned with mediators who had flown in to … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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Right now I’m on vacation in France before I speak in Vienna in July. Perhaps because of the distance, I’ve been thinking about America’s race problem (after the shooting deaths of nine African-Americans in Charleston, North Carolina) in terms of … Continue reading

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This April, 2015, may have been the busiest month yet for High Conflict Institute speakers. I spoke at 9 events in 6 states. Megan Hunter spoke in Ohio, Michael Lomax spoke in British Columbia Canada and Shawn Skillin spoke with … Continue reading

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