Category Archives: *Mediation and Negotiation

When Helping Hurts – How Professionals Become Negative Advocates – Or Not © by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social workers, human resource professionals, financial … Continue reading

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THE NEW WAYS PARENT-CHILD TALK: How To Talk To Your Child About Transitioning to Living in Two Homes by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ. When parents separate, having a talk with your children that includes some or all of the following may … Continue reading

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by John C. Edwards – Attorney, Mediator, National Trainer In a previous article, I wrote about the importance of leaving the critical decision making up to the parties to a mediation, especially if the party has a “high conflict personality.”  … Continue reading

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by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker (Article originally posted via Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego here.) I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And … Continue reading

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High Conflict Personalities in Employment Cases © 2016 John C. Edwards, Esq. It is expected and understood by most people in the legal profession that because of the intensely personal nature of the issues that come up in family law, … Continue reading

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Numbers vs Feelings: Different Perspectives in Divorce Mediation ©2016 By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. (This week’s blog is written by our guest Shawn Skillin, HCI Speaker & New Ways for Families Trainer) In divorce mediation, there is almost always a … Continue reading

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I just finished spending the past two weeks in Melbourne, Australia. It was my fifth visit to Australia and my fourth year teaching at Monash University Law Chambers. I must say I loved teaching the students and experienced lawyers, judges … Continue reading

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This April, 2015, may have been the busiest month yet for High Conflict Institute speakers. I spoke at 9 events in 6 states. Megan Hunter spoke in Ohio, Michael Lomax spoke in British Columbia Canada and Shawn Skillin spoke with … Continue reading

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Each year I teach a 2-weekend course at Pepperdine University’s School of Law at their Strauss Institute for Dispute Resolution. It’s a chance for really great discussions with only 26 students about the Psychology of Conflict, with an emphasis on … Continue reading

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Whew! My last month (October) was filled with travel for seminars all over North America. I’ve been so busy I haven’t had a chance to write about them. First, two days after I returned from Australia and China in September, … Continue reading

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