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When Helping Hurts – How Professionals Become Negative Advocates – Or Not © by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social workers, human resource professionals, financial … Continue reading

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Workplace Symphonies By Regina Schnell Common Sources of Employee Conflict You may be surprised at the top reasons for employee conflict. Lasting conflict isn’t typically due to jilted office romances or promotion jealousy. While those issues do occur, there are … Continue reading

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The CARS Method for Resolving High-Conflict Situations © 2015 by Bill Eddy and L. Georgi DiStefano The CARS Method was developed specifically to address four big areas of difficulty in high-conflict situations, which often involve one or more people with … Continue reading

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Did you miss our 10 Chapter Series on The Trump Bubble & High Conflict Politicians? Pre-Order the book TODAY! This is an excerpt from the new book by Bill Eddy, available for Pre-Orders now. Book will be released in May. … Continue reading

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Do you have a surge protector for your computer? I’ll bet you do! Otherwise, you could burn out your computer during a power surge from a storm, after a power outage or other cause. But do you have a surge … Continue reading

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During the month of May, I spoke on 9 days in 7 states/provinces. But three of those days were by Skype, so a little less traveling than the month before. John Edwards did a training in Iowa for mediators and … Continue reading

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By L. Georgi DiStefano and Bill Eddy One of the most frequent questions we hear in workplace conflicts, in counseling and in mediation, is “why doesn’t the other person ‘get it?’” Clients often bitterly complain that despite the clearest of … Continue reading

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By Bill Eddy and Georgi DiStefano A key breakthrough in writing our new book It’s All Your Fault at Work! Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People, was when we realized that all “feedback” is something that both of us have … Continue reading

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Part One: Interview with Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.  Read Part 2 with Georgi DiStefano in the January newsletter. Q:           You’ve written many books on high-conflict personalities. This one is the first title focused solely on the workplace. What prompted you to … Continue reading

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“How do I deal with my narcissistic boss?” is the most common complaint I get about high-conflict people in the workplace. They are everywhere, and seem to be increasing these days – from the lowest supervisor to the self-destructive owner … Continue reading

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