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by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker (Article originally posted via Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego here.) I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And … Continue reading

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Numbers vs Feelings: Different Perspectives in Divorce Mediation ©2016 By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. (This week’s blog is written by our guest Shawn Skillin, HCI Speaker & New Ways for Families Trainer) In divorce mediation, there is almost always a … Continue reading

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Negative Advocates for Trump © 2016 By Bill Eddy One of the most interesting dynamics of high-conflict legal and workplace disputes is the unique role of “negative advocates.” High-conflict people (HCPs) are always recruiting negative advocates who will completely agree … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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          Last month, Bill Eddy wrote a letter with recommendations for the Commission on the Future of California’s Court System. Here is what he wrote: Dear Futures Commission: I have been a family lawyer for 23 … Continue reading

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Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, because family court is a highly adversarial process that rewards combative … Continue reading

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November was another busy traveling month for me – from Coast to Coast, and North and South! In Boston, I spoke to over one hundred professionals at the Massachusetts Guardian ad Litem (MAGAL) conference. The audience was a good mix … Continue reading

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(excerpt from Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder)     Selecting the right attorney may be your single biggest decision. Interview at least three attorneys before choosing the one you want to retain as … Continue reading

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In Part I of this article (blog post dated August 26, 2014), I addressed the changing clientele of today’s family courts around the world. A majority of cases actually going to court appear to involve one or two parties with … Continue reading

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This is a question which would have been unheard of until very recently. Yet various trends today indicate that it may be time to seriously consider such a question. Part I of this article explains how today’s Family Court clients … Continue reading

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