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When Helping Hurts – How Professionals Become Negative Advocates – Or Not © by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social workers, human resource professionals, financial … Continue reading

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Last month, Bill Eddy wrote a letter with recommendations for the Commission on the Future of California’s Court System. Here is what he wrote: Dear Futures Commission: I have been a family lawyer for 23 years in California (a Certified … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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This April, 2015, may have been the busiest month yet for High Conflict Institute speakers. I spoke at 9 events in 6 states. Megan Hunter spoke in Ohio, Michael Lomax spoke in British Columbia Canada and Shawn Skillin spoke with … Continue reading

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The following is an excerpt from the book: The Future of Family Court: Structure, Skills and Less Stress The Trouble with Making Decisions Most judges like making decisions and are very good at it. However, with high-conflict people, the issue’s … Continue reading

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This month I got to travel to Quebec, Canada, to give a seminar about our New Ways for Families program. Of course, this month might seem like the worst time to travel northeast, but it turned out to be very … Continue reading

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Read our November Newsletter. EXCERPT: We all have dealings with high-conflict people, in our families, at work and in our communities…      

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By Bill Eddy and Don Saposnek Today’s politicians have been forced to polarize; they must see themselves as being (or having to be) viewed as “all-good,” while their opponents have to be viewed as “all-bad.” The recent presidential debates seem … Continue reading

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A Nation of Alienated Voters and Alienated Children By Bill Eddy and Don Saposnek It has been well noted by journalists and sociologists that large numbers of today’s voters feel alienated by our current high-conflict political process. However, as an … Continue reading

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On Jan. 24 and 25, I did a whirlwind tour of three cities in southern Alberta in Canada, training 60 judges in the New Ways for Families method. For those who aren’t aware, Calgary and Medicine Hat (a city of … Continue reading

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