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When Helping Hurts – How Professionals Become Negative Advocates – Or Not © by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. Most professionals are helping professionals. We like to help our clients as lawyers, mediators, therapists, arbitrators, social workers, human resource professionals, financial … Continue reading

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THE NEW WAYS PARENT-CHILD TALK: How To Talk To Your Child About Transitioning to Living in Two Homes by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ. When parents separate, having a talk with your children that includes some or all of the following may … Continue reading

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Three Theories of the High-Conflict Legal Case  © 2017 by Bill Eddy  High-conflict cases can be very confusing because it isn’t always clear which party is responsible for it becoming a high-conflict case. High-conflict cases increase the conflict, rather than … Continue reading

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by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker (Article originally posted via Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego here.) I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And … Continue reading

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You Want Me to What? High Conflict Divorce Boundaries 101 Guest Blog by Andrea LaRochelle, Registered Family Mediator, High Conflict Separation & Divorce Strategist, New Ways for Families Trainer When you ask someone what he or she wants or needs, … Continue reading

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Negative Advocates for Trump © 2016 By Bill Eddy One of the most interesting dynamics of high-conflict legal and workplace disputes is the unique role of “negative advocates.” High-conflict people (HCPs) are always recruiting negative advocates who will completely agree … Continue reading

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Violence and Mental Health © 2015 by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, CFLS We live in an age of overlap between legal and mental health problems. It is frequently said that there are more people with mental health needs in our … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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YGMOWYPAT! By Bill Eddy On May 7th I had the opportunity to be the Keynote Speaker at the South Coast Collaborative Professionals Spring Summit and Expo Program, held in Orange County, California. I also received their award for “Professional of … Continue reading

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Last month, Bill Eddy wrote a letter with recommendations for the Commission on the Future of California’s Court System. Here is what he wrote: Dear Futures Commission: I have been a family lawyer for 23 years in California (a Certified … Continue reading

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