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How High-Conflict Politicians Turn Peace into War [Excerpt from the 2012 book Splitting America by Bill Eddy and Don Saposnek, chapter 4] High-conflict people tend to turn peace into war, regardless of the setting they are in. They naturally see … Continue reading

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by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker (Article originally posted via Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego here.) I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And … Continue reading

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  Why Is Being A Target of Blame of a High Conflict Personality So Stressful? Guest Blog by Megan Hunter Whether you’re in a dispute with your brother, classmate, work colleague, spouse or even someone you don’t know, conflict is … Continue reading

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You Want Me to What? High Conflict Divorce Boundaries 101 Guest Blog by Andrea LaRochelle, Registered Family Mediator, High Conflict Separation & Divorce Strategist, New Ways for Families Trainer When you ask someone what he or she wants or needs, … Continue reading

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Numbers vs Feelings: Different Perspectives in Divorce Mediation ©2016 By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. (This week’s blog is written by our guest Shawn Skillin, HCI Speaker & New Ways for Families Trainer) In divorce mediation, there is almost always a … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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Last month, Bill Eddy wrote a letter with recommendations for the Commission on the Future of California’s Court System. Here is what he wrote: Dear Futures Commission: I have been a family lawyer for 23 years in California (a Certified … Continue reading

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Guest blog by Ellice Halpern, J.D., a Virginia Supreme Court certified general and family mediator. Last week, I participated in the annual four day Academy of Professional Mediators Conference in Reston, Virginia and learned with mediators who had flown in to … Continue reading

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Last week I spent three days in London – London, Ontario, that is! I trained almost forty professionals in our New Ways for Families method (see photo). Then I went on to Hamilton, Ontario, to give over 180 professionals an … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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