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by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker (Article originally posted via Collaborative Family Law Group of San Diego here.) I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And … Continue reading

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You Want Me to What? High Conflict Divorce Boundaries 101 Guest Blog by Andrea LaRochelle, Registered Family Mediator, High Conflict Separation & Divorce Strategist, New Ways for Families Trainer When you ask someone what he or she wants or needs, … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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Pat knew divorce was inevitable. It was a matter of WHEN? After the children are past the age of 5? 8? 10? 14? They had all tried to keep the family together, but they were individually coming apart at the … Continue reading

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In Part I of this article (blog post dated August 26, 2014), I addressed the changing clientele of today’s family courts around the world. A majority of cases actually going to court appear to involve one or two parties with … Continue reading

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The following is an excerpt from the book: The Future of Family Court: Structure, Skills and Less Stress The Trouble with Making Decisions Most judges like making decisions and are very good at it. However, with high-conflict people, the issue’s … Continue reading

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Thanks for all your thoughtful comments about my Shared Parenting Presumption postings earlier this month. First, I’d like to clarify some of the effects of presumptions in a legal context, in response to some concerns. A legal presumption (like the … Continue reading

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On Thursday and Friday, July 25-26, I gave a full 2-day training in the New Ways for Families method for managing high conflict divorces and custody disputes in Williamson County just outside of Austin, Texas. There were about 80 professionals … Continue reading

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On Friday, May 31, I attended the largest international conference on custody and access issues for separating and divorced parents. This was the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, which is 50 years old as of this year. This conference … Continue reading

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