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THE NEW WAYS PARENT-CHILD TALK: How To Talk To Your Child About Transitioning to Living in Two Homes by Bill Eddy, LCSW, ESQ. When parents separate, having a talk with your children that includes some or all of the following may … Continue reading

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Numbers vs Feelings: Different Perspectives in Divorce Mediation ©2016 By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. (This week’s blog is written by our guest Shawn Skillin, HCI Speaker & New Ways for Families Trainer) In divorce mediation, there is almost always a … Continue reading

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What a great week at AFCC! Always the best conference of the year! By Michelle Jensen, MSW, JD Last week we were in Seattle at the AFCC Annual Conference. Over 1,000 family law and mental health professionals attended this exceptional conference … Continue reading

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Taking the Assertive Approach in Family Court (c) 2015 Bill Eddy Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, … Continue reading

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In Part I of this article (blog post dated August 26, 2014), I addressed the changing clientele of today’s family courts around the world. A majority of cases actually going to court appear to involve one or two parties with … Continue reading

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This is a question which would have been unheard of until very recently. Yet various trends today indicate that it may be time to seriously consider such a question. Part I of this article explains how today’s Family Court clients … Continue reading

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The following is an excerpt from the book: The Future of Family Court: Structure, Skills and Less Stress The Trouble with Making Decisions Most judges like making decisions and are very good at it. However, with high-conflict people, the issue’s … Continue reading

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Excerpt from the book “Don’t Alienate the Kids! Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce” Reasonable parents are faced with a serious dilemma when separating from or divorcing a high-conflict parent. On one hand, it might seem best to totally … Continue reading

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Research It has been said that you can find research to support any opinion, and that is particularly true in the area of parenting after divorce or separation. However, most of the research emphasizes different aspects of the same problem, … Continue reading

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Different Needs at Different Ages Birth to age 5: Generally, this is a period when children need lots of stability and “secure attachment” experiences with both parents. Generally, it appears best to have one parent with the majority of the … Continue reading

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